It's rarely about the dishes.
Most relationship problems aren't really about the thing you're fighting about.
The pattern underneath
Communication breakdowns, resentment, disconnection, the stuff that keeps showing up in different clothes. We look at the pattern underneath and actually work on shifting it instead of just talking around it.
That usually means slowing a fight down far enough to see what each of you is protecting.
Attachment and co-dependency
How you learned to stay close to people, and what you learned it costs, shapes almost everything about how you love now.
I have specialized training in co-dependency and attachment, and much of this work is about learning where you end and someone else begins without losing the connection.
Alone or together
I work with individuals untangling their own relational patterns and with couples working on it together.
You don't need your partner's participation to change how you show up in a relationship.
This may be a good fit if you
- keep having the same fight in different words
- lose yourself inside relationships and want that to stop
- are rebuilding trust after a rupture
- want to stay close without abandoning yourself
- are deciding whether to stay, and want to think clearly about it
How I work with this
- Relational and psychodynamic work on the origin of the pattern.
- Attachment-focused couples sessions, 60 minutes.
- Concrete practice between sessions, not just insight in the room.
- Honesty and accountability held with warmth on both sides.
How we begin
We start with a free 15 minute consult so I can hear the basics about why you're coming to therapy and what you hope to get out of it. From there we typically work in a 12-week structure, with goals worked every session.
Free Consultation Call
15 minutes
$0
Telehealth
Individual Session
50 minutes
$225
Telehealth or in person
Couples Session
60 minutes
$275
Telehealth or in person
*Limited sliding scale spots available, starting at $110, depending on the circumstance.
Self-pay only. I provide a superbill on request that you can submit to your insurance for possible out-of-network reimbursement. Therapy outcomes differ from person to person. Nothing here is a guarantee of specific results, and this website is not a substitute for medical or mental health care.
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